A pregnant woman says her fiancé called her a “selfish woman” for making a separate dinner for herself and not sharing any with him — despite the fact that she cooked him his own full meal.
The expectant mother — who detailed her experience on Reddit’s “Am I the A——?” forum — explains that she is three months pregnant and has “been craving steak and sour cream baked potatoes” almost every day. Because of this, she says she’s been cooking herself the dish most evenings while making a separate meal for her children and fiancé.
The Reddit user says that this hadn’t been a problem until “last night,” when her fiancé suddenly decided that he would prefer the meal she cooked for herself instead of the meal she had prepared for the rest of the family — which she says was “baked pizza spaghetti with fried catfish,” along with a salad and dinner rolls.
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The woman says that she told her fiancé that she had only prepared one steak, at which point he said “well we can share.” She says she “politely” explained that she needed to eat all of her food since “I am (eating) for two,” and also that she might get hungry later if she only ate half of what she had planned.
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“I am now, in his words a ‘selfish woman using pregnancy as an excuse to be selfish,’ “ she continued.
She says she asked him why he suddenly seemed to take issue with her separate meal when she had been eating the same thing “almost every day with no complaints,” to which she says he replied, “It’s the principle bae,” and “just walked off.”
“We’ve barely spoken since. Just a dry good morning and goodbyes,” the woman continued, before adding, “Maybe if he expressed that he wanted the same thing as me I would have prepared for it but he literally always eats what I make. I didn’t know I had to be a mind reader.”
“AITA? (am I the a——)?” she then asked her fellow Reddit users.
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Redditors flocked to the comments section to reassure the woman that she was not in the wrong here — and that, if anything, they thought her fiancé was the a——.
“NTA (not the a——),” said one person. “And he’s a jerk of a man that can’t help his pregnant wife make dinner. Or at least tell you the night before that he would like to have the steak and potato as well. So the selfish person here is him because you’re doing all the work plus raising the kids and he’s bitching that he can’t have steak and potato (…) He can get up off his ass and make it himself…”
Another person agreed, writing: “NTA. You’re already making two separate meals every single night to satisfy your cravings while still feeding the entire family. That alone is more than enough. The fact that this man had a whole ass meal in front of him, one that you took the time to plan and cook, yet decided to sulk and guilt-trip you because he suddenly wanted what was on your plate is ridiculous.”
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The same commenter continued: “If ‘the principle’ is so important to him, then he can get his ass in the kitchen and cook his own damn steak next time. You are growing a whole human inside you. You don’t have time to be dealing with a grown man acting like a pouty toddler who didn’t get the same Happy Meal toy.”
“If he wants steak, he uses his words (before dinner is ready, ideally before the shopping is done) and asks for steak. Wanting to take half the meal off his pregnant wife is (what’s) selfish. NTA, hopefully this isn’t a sign of (what’s) to come,” said another person.
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