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A new mom says her mother-in-law is getting on her last nerveIn a post on Reddit, the woman writes that her husband’s mom wants to see her new baby, but also refuses to actually visitThe woman writes that she’s now struggling to balance the whims of her mother-in-law with the anxiety of her husband
A woman says her mother-in-law is “impossible to please” — so much so that she isn’t satisfied with anything concerning her new grandchild.
In a post published on Redditthe woman writes that she just gave birth two months ago to her mother-in-law’s “first grandbaby” and yet she is making the birth “about her.”
“This week she’s called husband to say she’s going to have to take care of the baby soon if she’s going to watch them occasionally while I’m at work. (We’re not desperate for the help btw, she volunteered to babysit some),” she writes.
While the woman writes that her mother-in-law was acting passive-aggressive and could have just called and asked to visit, she responded by saying she was more than welcome.
But when the couple called to nail down a visit, the mother-in-law responded, “Actually I’m too busy this week, maybe next week.”
“For context she’s been OBSESSED with becoming a grandma, tried to make a nursery in her house, had a grandma shower, and literally cried when my husband told her no one but us would be holding our baby the day of my c-section,” she continues.
She adds: “I’m starting to think maybe she’s more selfish and/or manipulative than I presumed? It’s definitely a different vibe than we had before any babies entered the picture.”
“She complains, but doesn’t want to visit. Makes ridiculous requests, like that we travel to visit with a 1 month old, and gets annoyed when we say no. But she’s obsessed with being a grandma and talks about it to all her friends,” she writes.
The woman adds that she’s now struggling to balance the whims of her mother-in-law with the anxiety of her husband.
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Other Reddit users are weighing in on the situation in the comments section, with one advising the poster, “If mil is impossible to please, stop trying to please her. It’s not your task to please her.”
Adds another, seemingly from experience: “She’s absolutely fishing for control and drama, classic ‘grandma victim’ move. Obsessed with the idea of being a grandma but not actually willing to do the work or respect boundaries. Your husband’s anxiety just makes her puppet strings easier to pull. You’re right to check yourself and not bend over backward for her circus. Keep your guard up, she’s definitely trying to drive a wedge.”
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